Stan did not understand that the Donut is symbolism about every time I was told about pink sprinkle donuts as a child. Whoever was manipulating Tim actually KNEW THIS.
Part of his issue was that he was left to raise me, this was something that needed to be processed in family therapy for years.
I have not had a single conversation with my brother since my wedding. Someone got it in their head to manipulate Tim and they did.
Every one of these emails said read his blog. I finally did. He did not like me actually posting to it after being tired of years of ineffective communication so he could preserve his marriage and retirement for himself.
An individual who communicates with Tim and has for many years also knows me and Stan VERY well. That is how he comes up with these jokes like a "donut".
Every time Tim did something trying to be funny Stan went into defense mode and I was in save my life from the abandoners mode. Hindsight is 20/20.
My father had help with "facilitated abandonment" from my mothers death on.
Make no mistake I deeply loved my brother and his sense of humor.

